Tell us your story


(Photo: ‘Tell your story’ by Damian Gadal on Flickr reproduced under licence CC BY 2.0)

Information about our research (please click Living-Together-Apart-Information-Sheet 120918 for a downloadable version of the Participation Information Sheet)

This research project explores peoples’ experiences of being part of a former intimate relationship with children, still living in the same space, thus ‘Living Together Apart’ (LTA).  Please share your stories of your experiences of Living Together Apart, whether good, bad or somewhere in between. We are interested to hear from you whether your experience is as someone currently or previously in an LTA relationship (including what changed if this is no longer the case); or if you would like to recall your experiences of being a child who spent time growing up with parents, step-parents or guardians, Living Together Apart.

You can choose to share your story with us confidentially, or if you would like to share your story with others, we can put it on our blog. If you do want to share your story on the blog, it is important that you know that we will anonymise your story (take out personally identifying details) and reserve the right to remove any offensive, illegal or unethical content. We will keep those stories on our blog until August 2020. If you request it, we will take down your stories down from the blog at any time during the research.  However, as we will be conducting analysis of the stories throughout the project, you have 1 month from submission of your story to withdraw it from the research project.

The stories collected in this project will be used in academic publications and we may quote from your story.  We will make sure that all quotations we use (whether from the confidential stories or from the stories you give us for our blog), will be fully anonymised. This means we will take out any personal details that might identify you or other people.

We will store your stories securely and confidentially and are required to keep them for 10 years after we have published from them. After that time, we will destroy your data.  We will not share your stories with anyone else and we will handle your data in accordance with the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR) 2016.  This project has been reviewed and approved by the University of Sussex Social Sciences and Arts Cluster Research Ethics Committee (SSARTS CREC).

Signposts to support

We hope that you will find telling your story an enjoyable and satisfying experience, but there is a possibility that it may evoke upsetting or distressing emotions. If this happens and you would like to seek some help, advice or support, please contact organisations such as the Samaritans ( / Tel: 08457 909090), MIND ( / Tel: 0300 123 3393), Family Lives Tel: 08088002222 ( or your local General Practitioner.